25 Questions to Ask
Before You Get Married
Falling in love is a
beautiful thing. When we meet that special person, we want get to know
them. We ask lots of questions, listen with curiosity and in the
process fall deeper in love. If it feels right, we make the decision to
share the rest of our lives together.
The desire to go from
being single to married is a big step and should be taken very
seriously. Sometimes the person we fall in love with has
responsibilities they bring with them so it behooves us to learn as much
as possible about this person we love and want to marry.
Getting married is a
statement of how you choose to spend the rest of your life. Having the
desire to be successful in our marriage, we
must be proactive. With
that said, logistics also have their place in relationships. Are you
learning what makes your partner tick? Do you know what they want and
expect from you-and how they envision your relationship unfolding? Have
you talked about what your marriage will look like? Do you know how
often your partner expects to make love?
Set aside a time to
ask each other these questions. Use them as a guide to know-at a deeper
level-your beloved. There are no wrong answers, only insights into who
your partner is and what they want and need.
These are questions
that require a lot of thought. Take your time with each one. Don't
answer them all in one sitting. If you get stuck, put that question on
hold for now and go to the next one. Don't allow one question to keep
you from finishing the list. Let these questions be a guide for you to
get to know each other at a deeper level.
The best marriages are
built on a strong foundation. When you have the tools to build the
relationship of your dreams, you can have one that will last a lifetime!
1. Do you want to
have children? If you do, how many do you want?
2. If we aren't able to have kids, will we remain childless? Will we
adopt or seek other alternatives?
3. If we do have kids, who will stay home with the children?
4. Should we have a prenuptial agreement?
5. How will we spend our vacations? Will we take vacations together
or apart or both?
6. What strategy will we use to resolve arguments?
7. What are your feelings about being monogamy? About cheating?
8. What discipline style do you want to use with our children?
9. What religion will we practice, if any? Will we attend church, as
a couple? As a family?
10. What are expectations around sex? Frequency?
11. Who will handle making sure the bills are paid every month?
12. How will we combine our incomes and divide expenses?
13. Where do you see us in 2 years? 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
14. Are you a morning person or a late night person?
15. Who will do the grocery shopping? Cooking?
16. Should we have a prenuptial agreement?
17. How will we divide up the housework before kids? After kids?
18. What are your spending habits? How much should we put in savings
monthly?
19. Does your family have a history of mental illness?
20. What are your goals, long term and short term?
21. Where will you live? Whose house will you live in? Will you get a
new place?
22. How will you
communicate your needs?
23. What are your personal boundaries?
24. What is the best way to support you when you are stressed, upset
or overwhelmed?
25. How will we ensure
the success of our marriage? What will we do to keep it healthy and
strong?
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