Tip of the Week
March 7th, 2007

Tell the universe what you want!
By Mary Ayers
Co-author of The Law of Attraction, in ACTION

So what is the Law of Attraction?  Simply put it states that whatever we put our attention on expands.  It’s easy to notice the truth in this.  For example, if you were going to buy a certain kind of car you tend to notice all the cars on the road that are like that one you are thinking about.  What you give thought to is what you notice in your environment.  Unfortunately most of us go around giving thoughts to things that aren’t what we want!! 

To create the lives we do want to have we’ve got to manage our thoughts deliberately – meaning we want to focus on what we do want.  Don’t be surprised to find that asking for what you want isn’t as easy as you thought.  Why is that?  You would think that we’ve all got a long list of things we want.  Yet when it comes down to it, and you’re asked to put pen to paper and decide what you really want, you get stuck.  Thoughts like, “What if I ask for the wrong thing?  What if I ask for it and I don’t get it? (After all I don’t want to get my hopes up and then be disappointed)”.  Maybe you think there isn’t enough to go around, or you shouldn’t ask for more than you need or the biggest one of all – Am I worthy of having what I want? 

These types of thoughts can keep many of us from asking for the fabulous life we all deserve.  Okay, so now what – do you have to go through years of therapy to rid yourself of these thoughts before you can move forward.  Goodness NO!!

Here are some quick and easy ways to side-step those thoughts and get yourself moving forward.  You can always address the reasons that have stopped you in the past if they continue to get in the way but you will be surprised how they start to shift just by taking action that supports the new beliefs you’re going to start living with.

• Get out a piece of paper and at the top of the page write, “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” and finish the sentence with anything you think would be nice to have.  Keep doing this until you’ve filled up one whole page.  Remember to include all the areas of your life: finances, health, relationships, career, home.  
• Now ask yourself, “What would I have to believe in order for me to be open to a bigger life?”  Would you have to believe that you always find a way, or that what you have to offer is valuable?  What would you have to believe to believe that?!  Keep asking until you find a thought that feels good when you think it.  Post it where you can read it several times a day.  This is how new beliefs are born.
• Our mind likes to think in pictures so help it get ideas of what you would like.  Flip through magazines and catalogues and cut out pictures that feel good to you.  Go beyond having “things” and find pictures that depict the quality of life you want to create.  What would you like to contribute?How would you like to make a difference?  Then put your pictures in a notebook. I like to paste them in a sketch book (the pages are sturdier than scrapbooks so they don’t tear as easily) and look at them a couple of times a week.   Doing this gets your mind familiar with seeing yourself as the person who lives this life. 

The Law of Attraction will be working in your life by helping you notice more opportunities where you can be and have the life you are wanting.  As you take action on these opportunities you are actively moving into the life you dream of!!

Mary Ayers is a licensed counselor and coach and she has co-authored an ebook with Leanna Fredrich called The Law of Attraction, In ACTION: Creating Your Fabulous Life Now!  To order this book, go to www.liveyourfabulouslifenow.com and go to the bottom of the page for more information.  Also, sign up for their free 7-day ecourse on the Law of Attraction. 

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